Archive for September, 2012

Aspirational versus Inspirational

Reblog from Gloria Mattioni’s  ‘Be Reckless’

We live in an “aspirational” society. Aspiration and ambition could be good things but often drive people crazy. Aspiration refers to material things you can possess. Inspiration refers to immaterial things you wish to be. When you choose “have” versus “be”, you set yourself up for disappointment and frustration. No matter how nicer car or bigger house you will buy, there will always be some better ones you could have and don’t. It’s the famous “greener lawn” stereotype and, as with many stereotypes, there is some truth to it. But if you shift focus and perspective, and choose to look for inspiration instead, you’ll have a garden of discoveries at hand. You are what you are by essence, sure. But you also grow into a new person day by day, depending on what experiences you have. What you do counts. How you do it, even more. What you eat, what you read, what you listen to, but also how you look around. The way you listen and observe and learn. The way you interact with others. It’s like nature. A plant will bloom earlier and more bountiful depending on what nourishments she will receive. You are the gardener responsible of you own blooming. Look for inspiration, and you will become an inspiring person as well. And the best part of gardening yourself is that it is the most creative task you can imagine. Instead of consuming, you will be producing. And your “work” will produce something—a new and better you—that will give you the same satisfaction an artist gets form his/her work. You’re your never to-be-finished masterpiece. You are a life-project that will never end. Not even death will interrupt this creative project because you will live in the legacy you’ll live behind. Isn’t that just GREAT?


Business Not as Usual

Blog post 091312

Do you ever think your business may be stuck in ruts your success wheels carved in the road years and years ago?   The law of primacy tells us, “What you learn first you remember longest.” Do you think you may be trapped by what you learned long ago in school or when you first started your business?

Except for some exceptional face-to-face meetings I conduct my entire business on the Internet and have done so for several years. I keep outside meetings to a minimum and they are usually with people not comfortable with doing business from a distance. I can understand that discomfort and do all I can to help those digitally challenged.  The time I used to spend (read waste) in meetings, travelling to meetings, preparing for meetings, and so on I now spend on actually running my businesses and learning how to be better at what I do.

Using the Internet for business is a mystery for many people, especially those in traditional niches who think having an Internet presence is limited to stagnant web sites, occasional newsletters or trying something on Facebook or Linkedin. Sorry, but when you think like that you are losing out to those who know how to be successful in 2012, no matter what their industry.

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Success Is Often a Matter of Perspective

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in change our perspective
front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large,
empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then a
asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the
jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between
the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course,
the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

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