Many of us don’t understand how important it is to be kind and forgiving to ourselves. We need to understand that forgiving ourselves for past mistakes has a positive effect on our success mentality.
This is not a silly, immature notion. Success mentality includes giving ourselves permission to be successful and putting the past aside. We’ve all done regretful things, and have to forgive ourselves for doing them.
Then we must move on.
Think about it, you are probably not that kind to yourself when you are in deep thought. At least once this week, you may have called yourself an idiot, fat, crazy or some other negative adjective.
The truth is when we are not comfortable with ourselves; no one else is going to be comfortable with us either. That is why it is absolutely imperative for you to make sure that you are being kind and gentle with yourself. Here are some tips to help you to do that.
1. Monitor the thoughts you are thinking. Everyone is unkind to themselves sometimes, but you have to think seriously about how you talk to yourself on a regular basis. When is the last time you thought something nice about yourself? If you’re like a lot of people, you simply cannot remember. That is unfortunate.
2. Make a conscious effort to have more positive self-talk. This sounds very strange, but it works: start with an “I love you” in the morning to yourself in the mirror. It seems silly at first, but over time, you will find that it feels more comfortable to you to say that. You will find that you are happier over time, as well.
3. Do something you like to do each day. All of us get caught up with problems and work and life. Quite often we don’t get to do something we enjoy for days or weeks. Treat yourself like you would treat anyone you care about, and allow yourself one fun thing every day. It doesn’t have to last a long time, but make room for it each day in your life.
4. Surround yourself with like-minded people. Don’t spend time with people who bring you down. That will put your mind on a path it doesn’t need to be on. Keep your mind positive by spending time with positive people who are kind to you.
5. Start a notebook and write in it good things about yourself. People are reluctant to compliment themselves. It’s a good idea to go down the list of your virtues every now and then. Writing them down is a helpful thing to do, so when you feel that you’re a mess, you can simply look back over the notebook and see that you are fantastic.
6. Read books of inspiration. One is “The Power of Positive Thinking”. View inspirational videos on YouTube.com. Listen to appropriate podcasts that offer life changing perspectives.
Success comes with knowing what’s okay.
1. It is okay to make more of yourself. Family and friends may discourage you, but it really is okay to go against their advice or criticism.
2. It is okay to move forward, leaving much of the past behind. As you mature hopefully you do mature things, leaving time wasting activities behind.
3. It is absolutely mandatory to give up what you are to be all you can be.
People may not understand as you evolve. Climbing the success ladder makes others unsure of their own existence. True friends cheer your success. They remain friends all your life.
The success path is wide open when you stop beating yourself up for one thing or another. Meaning change comes naturally. Understand why you do things and the results of your action.
Develop a filter and think before you speak. If you don’t quite like someone pretend you do. Overtime you will actually accept them in your live. Do the same with things you do not like to do.
Put a positive spin on negative situations. You can learn how to avoid depressing thoughts. Work each day on self acceptance and meeting new people.
Be kind to yourself and people you meet. Be complementary and open with people in general. You may not want to socialize with them, but your positive and open attitude makes encounters easier and pleasant.
When we treat ourselves well emotionally it is life changing. Look for the good in yourself and the situations you encounter.
Success does not come with a clap of thunder. It is a quiet sequence of events. Like yourself, like your life, and be more agreeable with others. These are the building blocks of a successful life and career.